can i please stop being bombarded with these questions:why are you still single? what do you look for in a guy? do you have really high standards?i've been often asked these questions by friends, acquaintances, and of course, my parent's friends.
hmmmmm.. let's see... prince charming should be definitely charming (jude law), serenade me with his voice (adam levine), make me laugh (jim sturgess), and possibly outdress me (ed westwick). HAHAHAHAHAH i'm totally kidding! tough criteria!
this reminds me of an episode of One Tree Hill where a psychologist asks Brooke,"why are you so insistent on going through life alone?"
in my case, the answer may not be too plain and simple. first of all, i am not alone. i have my family whom i love dearly and the company of friends. i am single because i choose to be in that state. i've often told people that "i don't need a man to validate my existence" and they never do quite understand what i really mean by it. most people think that i'm this feminist who will end up as a spinster because i have ruled out the option of dating. but what i really mean by that statement is that i am able to live and enjoy life with or without a man in the picture. i don't need a man to validate my existence simply means that i am confident in who i am and what i want in my life, to the point that i don't let relationships define me. i have not ruled out dating but i don't let dating and searching for "the one" rule over my life.
no, i don't have high standards. i just have standards. i'm not asking for a physics genius, a rockstar, and modelesque features. quite frankly, i only have two main criteria. because i greatly value my faith and relationship with God, the first criteria pertains to this factor in my life: he has to love God more than he will ever love me. when he is able to do this, everything else will follow. second criteria: he has to have a plan for his life, a man with a plan. so if you don't even know what meal you're ordering or what you want your future to look like, i'm gonna pass on you. i need someone who is able to stand on his own and make decisions. i know these two are seemingly simple, but i have yet to find him and he has yet to find me... and actually, i'm alright with that.afterall, it's always more interesting when God writes your love story.
you can call me ES. i'm a vagabond. i like to wander, and so do my thoughts. rock, paper, scissors? i choose paper. i can express myself better through it. whether it be through words, fashion, or music, the important thing is to make a statement. be bold, be beautiful, be no one else but you.
i'm the queen of one-liners, or so i've been told// shoes always fit. numbers never lie. music is used when words fail. love is the great reversal. emotions are fickle. passion is consistent. God's love is constant. God instills passion.
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